What do you do?

Has anyone ever said to you, "Yeah I know. I know." Ever realize when you try and give advice, the person you are speaking to already knows what they should be doing. Then why don't they do it? Answer: Most people spend their lives practicing not to take action. Everyday we have this list in our minds of what we should and need do get done. Our favorite saying might be, "Maybe later." "Procrastinate Procrastination." ~Dr. Gilbert

"If you know what to do, but you don't do what you know, then why know it."

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

We all have an Attitdue. Is it Positive or Negative?

Paul Stuart Wichansky appeared at Montclair University this past week and just hearing him speak, left the students in amazement as they are still talking about the impact he made. Paul was giving a talk at a high school when he noticed a teenage girl, in the back of the room, with her head down throughout the duration of his talk. After the auditorium cleared, this young girl approached Paul and said, "Hi. My name is Danielle and I have Cerebral Palsy." Paul responded, "Yes but it doesn't need to have you."

Paul Stuart Wichansky was born with Cerebral Palsy. Paul was also born hard of hearing, as he wears a hearing aid in each ear. Paul's motto is, "Take the 'Dis' out of disability. The person that struggles, sets the standard; cheating destroys that." Paul Stuart Wichansky is an amazing speaker. After his seminars, people rush to meet him. He reassures others that they are special just the way they are.

Paul Stuart Wichansky website is justthewayyouare.com

Some people may have been born with a disability. But others create our own disabilities in our mind called "MOOMBA: My Own Obstacle May Be Attitude." ~Ed Agresta

"Don't let you attitude become your biggest disability." ~Paul Stuart Wichansky.

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Are you Motivated or Caffeinated?

If you think you need caffeine every morning to get yourself going for the life that you chose; then change your life. Some started out with 1-2 cups of coffee and now they drink 3-5 cups a day. Are you dependant on a drug called caffeine?

Have you ever woke up just too motivated to go to school or work? If you drink coffee in the morning, your answer is probably no. Instead of being Caffeinated why not be Motivated. How?

By surrounding yourself with people who already are motivated. Call Success Hot Line. It is a free 3 minute motivational message or story every single morning. One of the top motivators in the country leaves a motivational message on his machine every morning. Most people get up in the morning and have the same unmotivated routine. If you want to be Motivated instead of Caffeinated, than change your morning routine.

Let's take the first step and start today. Call Dr. Gilbert's Success Hot Line at 973.743.4690.
Your whole day is filled with information. But without inspiration, than how much of your day will you actually enjoy. If you read this blog every day, you have already taken a step.

I-I=0 Information without Inspiration = Nothing

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Compassion and Kindness

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. "How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked. "Fifty cents," replied the waitress.

The little boy pulled is hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it. "Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the
waitress was growing impatient. "Thirty-five cents," she brusquely replied. The little boy again counted his coins. "I'll have the plain ice cream," he said.

The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies..

You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.

"Kindness is giving without the thought of receiving."

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." Randy Pausch

Why are you complaining?

Why do we get mad? Answer: Things aren't going the way we want it to?

Ever notice that every time we complain, it is because something might have happened that we didn't plan on or don't agree with. Do we spend most of our day complaining about things that we are not in control of? When we complain, we are allowing our thoughts to control our emotions.

A child once asked his Dad, "Do you like to complain?" Father answered emphatically, "NO!" The child then asked, "Then why do you do it?"

What you focus on will decide your happiness.

"You can complain because roses have thorns, or you can rejoice because thorns have roses."

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

What thoughts do you put into action?

"Yes you should do that. That's a good idea. Oh that sounds great. You have some great ideas."
Thoughts. Thoughts. Thoughts.

3 Frogs were sitting on a log. 1 frog decides to jump off. How many frogs are left?

You can decide to do anything you want. But if you want something to happen, you must put your thoughts into action.

"Thoughts are what you want. Actions are what you get." ~Dr. Gilbert

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Are you emphatic?

People have the greatest computers on their head and can learn anything. But if you bore them, it's like pulling the plug.

Someone once said to Dr. Gilbert knock'em dead. Dr. Gilbert responded,

"Don't Knock'em Dead. Knock'em Alive."

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Don't let life catch up to you

A Father is going back into boxing at 57 years old. His son doesn't understand and just wants him to be like the other dads, relax and enjoy his retirement.

Dad: I want to fight again
Son: Yea but... don't you think you're to old?
Dad: Yea but you think you oughta stop trying things cause you had a few too many birthdays? I do not!
Son: What are you trying to prove to other people pop?
Dad: Prove? Listen. I stopped thinking the way other people think along time ago. You gotta think like you think.
Son: Hey it's a different world now. Life is going to catch up to all of us.
Dad: Yea. Your right. Especially if you're standing still.

Especially if you're standing still? Are you standing still? Are you allowing life to catch up to you by focusing on things you aren't in control of. Others will try and keep you right where you are. Why? Because most people stay in their comfort zone and are afraid to fail. Failing is inevitable but standing still is not.

"Some people will wait for something to happen. Others will make it happen."
Which one are you?

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

A Thank you note for being thankful, goes a long way

Happy Thanksgiving
One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rain storm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960's. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab.

She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached.

It read:
'Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away... God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others.'

Sincerely,
Mrs. Nat King Cole.

"In separateness lies the world's great misery, in compassion lies the worlds true strength." ~Buddha

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want."
~Randy Pausch

How much time do you spend on impacting the world?

How much time is spent on making ourselves look good everyday? How much money have we spent on making ourselves handsome or pretty? Your clothes, your make-up, your shoes, your hair, and my favorite, your jewelery shouldn't determine how you feel. How you feel about who you are determines that. Do we need to constantly have new clothes to look good? Wait. It's ok to have new things, but my question to you is, Do you depend on those clothes to make you feel good?

Once we buy a new outfit it makes us feel great in it. Then after awhile we don't feel the same in that outfit and guess what, we have to go shopping again to make ourselves feel good in another one. Ever notice that tv commercials are all about trying to make us feel bad because we don't look or feel a certain way if we don't buy their product.

You should feel good about who you already are. If you don't, instead of going shopping for clothes than go shopping for friends that make you feel that way. Your friends and family members should make you feel great about who you are. Do they pick you up or pull you down? Do they allow you to wallow in self pity, or do they help you bounce back?

You have something special to offer the world. You are full of infinite potential. You and your friends should feel the same way about you. Now stop reading this and go make a difference in the world today.

"You get paid to impact the world, not get impacted by it." ~Mal Pancoast

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

How to keep away self imposed stress?

Do you:

-make yourself get up in the morning

-make yourself go to work

-make yourself clean

-make yourself do things you don't want to do

Have you ever been somewhere and you kept looking at the time because you are making yourself stay there. Every time we make ourselves do something, it builds stress.

Instead of making, start letting. Let yourself get up in the morning. Let yourself go to work or school. See we don't make ourselves party, play, hang out. We have less stress whenever we let ourselves enjoy what we are doing. If you are making yourself do something, chances are you probably aren't enjoying it.

Are you ready in the morning to face the days challenges= letting. Or are you bitter because you have to face the days challenges= making. At the end of the day you can look back and see how you handled every situation. Will you pass or fail. Remember others are watching the way you live.

"Don't count the days. Make the days count." ~Ed Agresta

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Are your everyday actions inspiring those around you?

You may not know it, but people are watching the way you live.

The story of Rose

The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being. She said, "Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty seven years old. Can I give you a hug?" Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her. She was living it up. At the end of the semester, we invited her to speak at our football banquet. I'll never forget what she taught us.

As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards. Frustrated and a little embarrassed she said, "I'm sorry. I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know."
As we laughed, she began. "We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. Here are the secrets to staying young:

Being Happy
Achieving Success
Laugh and find humor everyday

You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!

There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If you are 19 years old and lie in bed for a full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn 20. Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability.

-Always finding opportunity in change- Have No regrets. The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we have did, but rather for the things we did not do. The only people who fear death are the ones with regrets."

At the year's end Rose finished her college degree. One week after graduation, Rose died peacefully in her sleep. Over 2000 college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example.

It is never too late to be all you can possibly be.
"Growing older is mandatory. Growing up is optional." ~Rose

"We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give."

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Are you in the moment?

3rd and 4th grade Girls Basketball team prays before each game, with the following poem:

I may never see tomorrow, there is no written guarantee,
And things that happened yesterday, belong to history.
I cannot predict the future, I cannot change the past,
I have just the present moment, I must treat it as my last.

I must use this moment wisely, for it will soon pass away,
And be lost to me forever, as part of yesterday.
I must exercise compassion, help the fallen to their feet,
Be a friend unto the friendless, make an empty life complete.

The unkind things I do today, may never be undone,
And friendships that I fail to win, may never more be won.
I may not have another chance on bended knee to pray,
And thank God with humble heart, for giving me this day.

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

How can you achieve, if you don't believe?

I believe that the sun shines after the rain,
I believe if you don't get hurt you'll never gain.
I believe in not doing things the easy way,
I believe that being selfish doesn’t pay.

I believe to always look on the bright side,
I believe that life is just one big ride.
I believe when I die people will grieve,
But it’s ok because I believe.

"If my mind can conceive it, and my heart can believe it, I know I can achieve it."~Jesse Jackson

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Is it just the same routine?

If you do the same thing every morning,
then change it.
If you act the same way everyday in class,
then change it.
If you want a better life for yourself,
then change it.

How? By putting on a motivational movie in the morning and blasting it throughout your house. Come up with some great questions for class that will surprise and amaze the professor by googling the topic and gaining different knowledge on the subject. We get stuck right where we are and continue this fight in our head, with all the things we want to do instead of taking action to do it.

In order to rise to where you want to be, you must first change where you are.

"If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always got."

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

How do you guarantee you are living in the moment?

How do you enjoy any relationship you have?
Answer: By capturing the moment and living with self confidence and security

The following note was given to a male from a female:
I don't know what our future entails for us. And for the first time I am not focused on that. I am just enjoying you and your company. I am not saying it will hurt any less if things ended, I am saying I just want to be in the moment. You can't be with someone, if you are wrapped up in the past or looking towards the future. I am in my twenties and I will make mistakes, over react, and cry over silly things, but I will also surprise and amaze people. I want to enjoy life and I can't do that if I am always involved with others' drama. I can't worry or focus on others people's lives, because then I am missing out on mine.

We only have so long in life to experience everything and we have to take advantage of that, especially during our youth. The problem is, people seem to realize that, later in life. All I am saying is, what you and me have right now is enough. You make me happy, you make me laugh, you even make me think, you can also make me cry. These are all emotions to let you know you are alive. And you make me feel alive.

"Worry is in the future, regrets are in the past, enjoying your life is in the Now."

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want."

Don't Quit Don't Quit Don't Quit

The most amazing streak.
Just because you're tired, DON'T YOU QUIT! Just because you don't feel like it, DON'T YOU QUIT! If you are allowing your feelings to take over your thoughts, DON'T YOU QUIT! After you read this story, you may never have the right to wine and complain about insignificant things that won't matter tomorrow. At sometime today you are going to feel like quitting. You might feel like it all day, still DON'T YOU QUIT!

Covert was a 17 year old high school student and on July 23 1968, he went for a run near his home in Los Angeles. The next day he woke up and went for another run. Every day, he just kept on running. After 50 days in a row, Covert went for another run. After 100 days in a row, that's right Covert went for another run.

He has run on the days when his 4 children were born. He ran on the days that his parents died. While vacationing on a cruise ship, he was stuck in a tropical storm- Covert Runs. Years later he broke his left foot. His foot was so swollen (from running on it while it was broken) the doctors couldn't put a cast on it. So when he got home he wrapped it up and you guessed it- Covert Runs.

Today Mark Covert is 56 years old and has run over 14,071 days in a row. He admits that his age has slowed him down a bit as his 4:09 mile is now a 7:15 mile (That is amazing). He has become unstoppable in his quest.

"I can't ever see myself waking up and saying, 'I don't feel like doing this anymore." ~Mark Covert

"Intense effort only fully releases its reward after a person refuses to quit". ~Napoleon Hill

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Are you Comfortable?

"I'm cold. Can you turn up the heat. It's too hot in hear. Turn on the air condition."

Why are we so addicted to being comfortable.

How do you get through the difficult times of life? Let's try being comfortable being uncomfortable. Life is all about discomfort. Once we are uncomfortable, we start to complain about it. Get use to it. Comfort keeps us inside our comfort zone which creates habits, good or bad. That's "easyville". No worries and No discomfort. But if you really want to go for it, no matter what it is: speaking in public, dancing, disagreeing with your boss appropriately, confronting people we are scared of; then get comfortable being uncomfortable.

Everything you know is inside your comfort zone. Everything you don't know is on the outside. The most exciting thing about life is not knowing what your future holds; the unexpected surprises that we are not aware of. They all lie on the outside of our comfort zone.

"Bad habits are like a comfortable bed, easy to get into, but hard to get out of."

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Teacher calls home

He was a new teacher at an inner city high school to start the new school year. His teaching style at first, had the students and teachers laughing behind his back. There was a line on the floor, at the door of his classroom. Every time a student walked in his classroom over that line they would have to snap their fingers and say, "I'm Smart and I'm Good". It was called the "Learning Opportunity Line." Every single student had to do this in this inner city school. He wanted to change there thoughts so they could change the way they felt about themselves.

This teacher would call the houses of the students and demand to speak to their parents. What a difficult situation that must be, handing the phone over to your Mom or Dad with the teacher on the other end. However the teacher only called home when he caught the students doing something right instead of something wrong. -If there were more teachers like Ed Agresta, there would be bigger differences being made in the world.

Ever notice that people in life will focus more on the things you do wrong instead of what you do right. What do you concentrate on, when someone in your life does something wrong? Do you wallow in their faults or do you allow them to make mistakes.

"Hope is expected, when mistakes are accepted." ~

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Friend

What would you do if you never got the chance to say I am friends with all of my family and they know I love them? You might be best friends one year, pretty good friends the next year, don't talk that often the next, and don't want to talk at all the year after that. Let old friends know you haven't forgotten them, and tell new friends you never will. Remember, everyone needs a friend, someday you might feel like you have NO FRIENDS at all, just remember you're loved and take comfort in knowing somebody out there cares about you and .. always will.

Free motivational seminar tonight at 9pm. Just call 1-641-715-3200 access code 1072571 followed by the # sign. Whether you are a teacher, mother, friend, leader, captain, godfather, godmother, grandparent, or anytime you gave advice to someone, This is for you. Learning how to motivate someone, hosted by the Great Dr. Gilbert. You can just listen in or ask questions, it is up to you.

"The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with, never say a word, then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation that you ever had."

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

How to stress yourself out

WORRY.
Do you know that when you worry, it is only because you might be thinking, "What can go wrong." Think about all the times you have worried about something. Were you thinking about all the great things that could happen? Not likely.

Less worry and more motivation-Just call this Sunday 1-641-715-3200 access code 1072571. The Great Dr. Gilbert and I will be hosting the seminar. Once you call in, you will be on the line with everyone. You can ask questions or just listen. Stay on for as long as you like. Yes it is FREE.

"When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened." ~Winston Churchill.

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Habits are practiced everyday

90% of everything you do is from your habits. We spend most of our lives on cruise control. It might be time to hit the brake and start taking control of our actions.
Your reactions in life are due to the habits you practice. Our habits have led us to our reactions. Our reactions have led us to say, "Well that's just who I am."

You choose your reactions by choosing your habits. Complaining is a habit. It's sad to say, but for some, it has become a way of life. You know these people. They always have a problem, always telling a sad story. Of course that is ok sometimes, but not all the time.

Take control of who you want to be. If it's not who you are choosing to be, then change your choices.

How do you find the secret to motivate yourself and others?
Answer: Free phone seminar this Sunday Nov. 11 at 9pm-10pm.
Just call 1-641-715-3200 access code 1072571. The Great Dr. Gilbert and I will be hosting the seminar. Once you call in, you will be on the line with everyone. You can ask questions or just listen. Stay on for as long as you like. Yes it is FREE.

"Control your mind or your mind will control you."

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

How do you spend your time?

No matter what happens to you today, think about what you spend your time focusing on; The things you are thankful for or the things you are not.

4 things you can’t recover
1. The stone after it has been thrown
2. The word after it has been said.
3. The occasion after it has happened.
4. The time after it is spent.

"You can't change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying about the future."
~Unknown

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Show it

"If we all waited for someone else to take action, action would never be taken."

If you don't show compassion, Then who will?
If you don't show care and concern, Then who will?
If you don't commit random acts of kindness, Then who will?
If you don't brighten some one's day, Then who will?
If you don't help those who are less fortunate than you, Then who will?

"If people only spoke when they were spoken to, then no one would speak."

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Who influences you?

Are you stressed? Do you lack Mental Toughness? How is your self esteem and self confidence? Take a look at those you have surrounded yourself with. Are they stressed? Do they lack mental toughness and self confidence? Well how are you suppose to build those great qualities?

Those that we surround ourselves with have a huge impact in our lives. We become those that we associate with. If you want to hang out and party, you know who to call. If you want something else out of life, then sometimes you might need to call someone else.

If you want better study habits then start hanging out with those who go to the library. If you want to be a better athlete then hang out with those people who go to the gym. All of those people have an influence in our lives. What influence do you have on someone else and what influences are they having on you that you might not be aware of?

"Who you choose to be, is the result of who you choose to see."

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Are you making a mistake?

Some people stop going for it, because they are stuck in their past mistakes, with fear of making another one. You either get stuck in your mistakes or you learn from them.

A reporter once asked a bank president:
Reporter: What is the secret to your success?
Bank President: 2 words- right decisions
R: And how do you make the right decisions?
BP: One word- Experience
R: And how do you get Experience?
BP: Usually from making wrong decisions

"The greatest mistake you can make is being afraid to make a mistake."

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Risk= Fear and doing it anyway

Have you ever wanted to love someone with everything you had, but that other person was too afraid to let you? Too many of us stay walled up because we are too afraid to care too much...for fear that the other person does not care as much, or even at all. Have you ever denied your feelings for someone because your fear of rejection was too hard to handle? We tell lies when we are afraid. afraid of what we don't know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing we fear grows stronger. Life is all about risks and it requires you to jump.

"There are 2 types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: Those who are afraid to try themselves, and those who are afraid that you will succeed."
~Ray Goforth

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Are you nervous?

There was this look of fear on all their faces, just before they played the boys basketball team. While in the locker room for their pre-game pep talk, a 3rd grade girl said, "I am Nervous!" The coach to their surprise had this huge smile on his face and said "That's Great." The girls looked at him with astonishment and confusion on their face. The coach explained, "When you are nervous it shows how much you care. Every athlete is nervous before the game. But here is the secret, IT'S OK TO BE NERVOUS, IT'S NOT OK TO ACT LIKE IT. The good news is we don't have to act how we feel."

Most people say, "What is wrong with me. Why am I so nervous." We must be comfortable being uncomfortable. It is ok not to feel comfortable all of the time. That is where we learn the life's lessons.

"The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure." ~Sven Goran Ericksson

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Stop taking the Long Way

Can you put more into what you are doing and less into what you are not doing. You have infinite potential. But what gets in the way of that potential?
Answer: Interference (Noise)

Stop going the long way. When you travel down that path to reach your goal; KEEP GOING. Most people allow the noise to slow them down or take a different road. The shortest distance between you and your goals is one secret word: FOCUS. The less we focus, the slower we travel. If you have that paper to write, just FOCUS. You need to finish that resume, just FOCUS. You need to organize your room and your bills, just FOCUS.

The outside Interference which is: complaining about others, wallowing in self pity, constant shopping etc... These activities help you take your eyes off your goal. Your thoughts determine your focus. What you think about, will lead you, sometimes to where you don't want to go. So control your mind before it controls you. Your Thoughts determine how far you will travel and how long it will take to get there.

Procrastinate Procrastination ~Dr. Gibert

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get, when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Feelings Determine Happiness

Life is a blank piece of art paper. You hold the power in your hand. You have the power to draw whatever you want; as colorful as you want; as masterful as you want.

Don't just draw. Make it a Masterpiece.

Anything you draw is a thought put into action. Your thoughts then determine your feelings. Your feelings will tell you whether or not you are happy. Are you holding the power or are you allowing someone else to draw your life? People resist taking responsibility for their feelings because it might be, "Too hard to deal with."

"What someone says doesn't hurt your feelings. It's your continued thoughts after they have said it."

Quote of the month: "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch