COACH D'S NATION OF MOTIVATION: Every Monday Matters

What Are You Going Through

2011-07-25T00:00:00.000-04:00

Every Monday Matters. Are Mondays a drag for you? No matter what adversities you are facing here is a tip for you:

Instead of focusing on what you are going through, focus on what you are going to.

"If you are going through hell, keep going." -Unknown

Wants vs Committments

2011-05-23T00:00:00.000-04:00

"I want to be in better shape!" "I want to get better grades!" "I want to have a great relationship."

I have two words for you. WHO CARES!
Who cares what you want? The question is, What are you COMMITTED to? Let me watch your actions and I'll tell you your commitments.

What we want, is just something we say. It is not an action or a confession of achieving it.

"Thoughts determine what you want. But actions determine what you get." ~Dr. Rob Gilbert

Quote of the month: "Life begins when our comfort zone ends." ~Neale DonaldWalsch

3 Questions for Success!

2011-05-16T20:56:00.003-04:00

You are on your way! Where? I do not know. But everyday your actions either bring you closer to your goals or take you further away from them.

1. Where do you want to be?

2. Do you have a plan to get there?

3. Are you working that plan?

"If you do not know where you are going in life, you will probably never get there." ~Unknown

"Life begins when our comfort zone ends." ~Neale Donald Walsch

The Biggest Joke In The World

2011-05-09T08:02:00.005-04:00

Is when you tell yourself that you cannot do something.

The Best Surprise in the World:
Is when you actually do it.

The Greatest Gift in the world:
Is when you teach it to someone else.

"The purpose of life is to discover your gift. The meaning of life is to give your gift away." ~David Viscott

This week was inspired by Dr. Rob Gilbert. Call his Success Hotline and get motivated everyday, 973.743.4690.

Quote of the month: "Life begins when our comfort zone ends." ~Neale Donald Walsch

5 Words That Feed Procrastination

2011-04-25T00:00:00.000-04:00

I Don't Feel Like It!

Let your actions change your attitudes and your movements change your moods.

While those are waiting for something to happen, the enthusiastic people of the world are making it happen.

Quote of the week: "Thoughts determine what you want. Actions determine what you get." ~Dr. Rob Gilbert

Why Do We Lose Enthusiasm For Life?

2011-02-16T09:20:00.004-05:00

Because we stop seeing possibility!

Chances are we are not surrounded by those who see possibility.

"Don't let people set your limits. Stretch your limits!"

Quote of the month: "Life begins when our comfort zone ends." ~Neale Donald Walsch

Do Your Feelings Determine Your Actions?

2011-02-15T00:00:00.001-05:00

That is how procrastination became so popular. We allow our feelings to determine our results.

Solution:
Let your motions change your emotions and let your actions change your attitude.

Does your day determine your attitude? Or does your attitude determine your day?

Quote of the month: "Life begins when our comfort zone ends." ~Neale Donald Walsch

Football Players Only Have 1 Question to Ask Themselves

2011-02-06T00:00:00.000-05:00

"Are you going to hold back or are you going to go all out?"

How about you? Everyday you wake up you make this decision.

"What is it going to be? Reasons? Or Results?"

Quote of the month: "Life begins when our comfort zone ends." ~Neale Donald Walsch

Are Football Players Excited? Or Nervous?

2011-02-05T00:00:00.000-05:00

What is the difference?

It is a mindset.
Nervous means, "Am I prepared for this? What will go wrong?"
-It is living with doubt.

Excitement means- "I can't wait to show you this. I AM READY TO SHOW OFF MY TALENTS!"
-It is living with confidence.

"You cannot be scared if you have prepared." ~John Wooden

Quote of the month: "Life begins when our comfort zone ends." ~Neale Donald Walsch

Wins? Losses? Or Lessons? What Drives You?

2011-02-04T00:00:00.002-05:00

At this Sunday's Super Bowl Game, the average person will learn about 2 things and some will complain about them.
The win!
Or the loss!

But there are those who will watch for the lessons being learned. Why? Because they know that success leaves clues. And they are looking for any secret for their gain.

Just ask the great Lou Holtz Football coach who wrote the book, "Wins, Losses, and Lessons."

They know this, "A day without learning is a day without living." ~Lou Holtz

Quote of the month: "Life begins when our comfort zone ends." ~Neale Donald Walsch

Can You Be Half Committed?

2011-02-03T00:00:00.000-05:00

A great football coach once said, "A half hearted commitment is worse than no commitment at all." He also said, "You can tell a lot about a person's character, not by the mistakes he has made, but how he has handled those mistakes."

Who is he?

Are you committed to growing through your mistakes? Or are you committed to just going through them?

Quote of the month: "Life begins when our comfort zone ends." ~Neale Donald Walsch

Football Players Are Fired Up To Live Their Life

2011-02-02T00:00:00.003-05:00

Are You?
Some people will be excited to see other people accomplish goals this Sunday at the Super Bowl.

What are you excited for? I hope you are excited for your life, for your significant other for having a job.
Take time to enjoy what you have because one day it will be taken from you.

"If you aren't fired with enthusiasm. You will be fired with enthusiasm." ~Vince Lombardi

Quote of the month: "Life begins when our comfort zone ends." ~Neale Donald Walsch

2 Things Every Super Bowl Team Knows

2011-02-01T00:00:00.002-05:00

"But it's hard. I can't do it." Anyone can give up when it gets hard.
#1 it will be hard
#2 it will be worth it

I have never seen a college graduate rip up their degree and say, "Nah. It wasn't worth it."

"Negotiate with your body to find more energy but don't you give up on me."
~Head Coach from the football movie... "Facing The Giants"

Quote of the month: "Life begins when our comfort zone ends." ~Neale Donald Walsch

Who Will Win the Super Bowl?

2011-01-31T00:00:00.003-05:00

The best team may not win. But the team that plays the best that day always wins. But how do YOU stay at your best? By not honoring your feelings when you want to quit.

At some point today or tomorrow or the next day you are going to want to give up. But that is just a feeling. Don't let it be your actions.

"Feelings are not facts." ~Jill Jeffries

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

Get Ready For The Future

2011-01-30T00:00:00.000-05:00

Are you still looking through that review mirror and holding grudges? Then chances are, you are not looking to be happy in the future.

"The future belongs to those who believe in living in it." ~Unknown

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

LIfe Is Waiting For You! TO LIVE IT!

2011-01-29T00:00:00.000-05:00

"Don't have regrets. Have results." ~Unknown

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

Week of Fear- Forget about it

2011-01-28T00:00:00.001-05:00

If you have not realized by now, fear is part of the excitement. But don't let it paralyze your actions. Let your actions paralyze your fears.

"Be so focused in what you are doing that you forget to be afraid." ~Andy Hernandez

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

Week of Fear- Courageous People Are Not Unafraid

2011-01-27T00:00:00.001-05:00

They just do it anyway.

"Courage is not the absence of fear. But going forward in spite of fear." Willie Jolley

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

Week of Fear- Stop Running

2011-01-26T00:00:00.000-05:00

Some people think FEAR stands for:

Forget
Everything
And
Run

"Face your fear and then see it disappear." ~Unknnown

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

Week of Fear- False False False

2011-01-25T00:00:00.000-05:00

Ever get scared over something that never came true. Ever have an overreaction because you didn't think you were going to handle the situation. That is called F.E.A.R.

False
Expectations
Appearing
Real

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

Week of Fear- Don't Settle!

2011-01-24T00:00:00.001-05:00

Are you scared of the unknown. Good! You are not the only one. But don't be scared, be excited. Why?

"Because most people would rather settle for known hells than unknown heavens." ~Willie Jolley

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

4 Toxic Thoughts that Destroy Happiness- #4 Worry

2011-01-21T00:00:00.001-05:00

I want to be happy but...
I WORRY!

"Worry disrupts your ability to deal with issues instead of increasing your coping power to handle it."

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

4 Toxic Thoughts that Destroy Happiness- #3 FEAR

2011-01-20T00:00:00.001-05:00

Don't let it stand in your way. Don't believe the hype. Anything you love is worth going after. Don't let it stop you from being unstoppable.

"Fear is an illusion; you think something is standing in your way but nothing is really there." ~Michael Jordan

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

4 Toxic Thoughts that Destroy Happiness- #2 WWOPT

2011-01-19T00:00:00.002-05:00

It is the #1 Fear in America.
It is the #1 reason why depression will be the number 2 disease in this country by 2020 (According to the World Health Organization).
It is the #1 reason why we do not act like we are free.

WWOPT
What Will Other People Think

"Let the voices on the inside be louder than the voices on the outside."

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

4 Toxic Thoughts that Destroy Happiness- #1 Grudges= Revenge

2011-01-18T00:00:00.001-05:00

I want to be happy but...
I want REVENGE!

"Wanting revenge is like drinking a bottle of poison and expecting someone else to feel the pain." ~Unknown

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

4 Toxic Thoughts that Destroy Happiness- #1 Grudges

2011-01-17T00:00:00.003-05:00

I want to be happy but...
I hold grudges.

"Holding a grudge is like wanting to bite the dog because the dog bit you."
to be continued...

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

If You Are Going Through Hell...

2011-01-16T00:00:00.000-05:00

Keep going!

"Tough times are not permanent. They are only temporary. It didn't come to stay. It came to pass." ~Joel Osteen

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

Action Sings Loud

2011-01-15T00:00:00.001-05:00

ACTION CHANGES EVERYTHING.

Let your actions take you where you want to go.

"Action speaks louder than words but not nearly as often." ~Mark Twain

Don't let this be you!

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

Will You Do This Today?

2011-01-14T00:00:00.000-05:00

Take ACTION!
Stop wanting and start taking!

ACE
"ACTION CHANGES EVERYTHING!"
"ACTION CHANGES ATTITUDES.'
"ACTION CREATES ENERGY."

Thank you Dr. Gilbert

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

I Want to Be Happy! But...

2011-01-13T00:00:00.001-05:00

"But... I hold Grudges. I worry. I want revenge. I live in fear. I get upset when things don't go my way. I don't adapt to problems well."

If your aspirations are to be happy, then you have a strange way of showing it.

"Life is a series of problem solving events." ~Dr. Rob Gilbert

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

Do You Live in Hope?

2011-01-12T00:00:00.000-05:00

Are your actions meeting your aspirations or goals? Do you want to be in better shape but you only go to the gym once a week? No matter what your goal is; Are your actions meeting your aspirations? If not, then you are just living in hope. You are just hoping to meet your goals.

"Increase your actions to meet your aspirations." ~Mano Watsa

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

Are You Coasting Through Life?

2011-01-11T00:00:00.000-05:00

"Leave me alone I am comfortable. Leave me in my comfort zone!"

"The only time we coast through life is when we are going down hill." ~Unknown

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

Don't Get Caught Standing Still

2011-01-10T00:00:00.003-05:00

An older retired boxer felt as if his life had no purpose and decided to go back into boxing. His son was adamantly speaking to him about not coming out of retirement. He told his dad, "Life is going to catch up to all of us." The father replied, "Especially if you are standing still."
Is it time to get out of your comfort zone?

"The only time we coast in life is when we are going down hill." ~Unknown

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

But What If I Fail?

2011-01-09T00:00:00.001-05:00

"Your greatest rejection is your greatest direction." ~Joel Osteen

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

What Are You Waiting For?

2011-01-08T00:00:00.000-05:00

Are you waiting for your feelings? Are you waiting until you feel like working out? Are you waiting for your feelings before you take action?

Success is achieved by your actions, not your feelings.

"When we allow our feelings to determine our actions, then our goals just become wishes." ~D.V.

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

What is the Easiest to Control?

2011-01-07T00:00:00.002-05:00

Your Thoughts? Feelings? Or Actions?

Your thoughts and feelings may be on a roller coaster ride all day long; almost as if they are on autopilot. But your actions are your decision.

"Thoughts determine what you want. Actions determine what you get." ~Dr. Gilbert

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

Are You Addicted to Your Actions? Or Your Feelings?

2011-01-06T00:00:00.001-05:00

All day long every day your emotions will be up and down, "I think, I feel, I think, I feel, I think, I feel." But your actions can always be at the top of the ladder.

"A professional does their best when they feel like it least." ~Unknown

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

Did You Start Yet?

2011-01-05T13:49:00.003-05:00

Start! Start! Start!

And..... Oh yea, START!

"A year from now you are going to wish you started today." ~Dr. Gilbert

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle of the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

New Year's Resolutions?

2011-01-04T13:45:00.000-05:00

Nah... Resolutions are based on a feeling. Commitments are based on actions.

"Commitment is keeping your word after the feeling has passed." ~Unknown

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle of the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

The 5 Words That Destroy New Year's Resolutions and Commitments

2011-01-03T13:42:00.001-05:00

"I DON'T FEEL LIKE IT!"
Don't allow your feelings to interrupt your actions. Feelings are not facts.

"Force yourself to act differently than you feel." ~Ed Agresta

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

Who is Stopping You?

2011-01-02T13:39:00.000-05:00

It Might Be You!
What would you attempt to do in 2011 if you knew you could not fail? What are you waiting for?

Thank God Thomas Edison did not give up after the first 10,000 times that he failed.

"Failing to prepare is preparing to fail." ~John Wooden

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

HAPPY NEW YEAR

2011-01-01T13:32:00.000-05:00

Hang

Around

Positive

People

You're

Now

Empowered

With

Your

Effort

Attitude

Response

Thank you Gary Prichard

Quote of the month: "There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

Are You Excited to Live Your Daily Life?

2010-12-18T00:50:00.005-05:00

How much of your day is taken up by things you are not totally into? Most people spend much of their life with someone they are not totally into. If you are not excited for your life then why would anyone else be.

"Many people in this world would love to trade their circumstances for yours." ~Dr. Gilbert

Quote of the month: "The past is a place of reference not residence." ~Willie Jolley

Invest in Yourself!

2010-11-12T00:00:00.000-05:00

What investment will you make to yourself today?
I'm a good enough Coach. Good enough Mother. Good Enough Dad. Good Enough Teacher. My attitude and my confidence is good enough. So is my health.

"If you live in the land of good enough, then instead of building your confidence and self-esteem, you're just building feelings of complacency." =I just want to stay in my comfort zone.

Quote of the month: "There are many wonderful things that will never be done unless you do them." ~Charles D. Gill

Holding Back= Averageness

2010-11-11T00:00:00.001-05:00

Are you an average person?
Looking for an average relationship?
Looking to think like an average person?
Responding like the average person when your expectations are not fulfilled?

You cannot live an average life and expect extraordinary results. The longer we Hold Back and stay in our comfort zone, the longer we continue to surround ourselves with averageness.

"Life begins when our comfort zoned ends." ~Unknown

Quote of the month: "There are many wonderful things that will never be done unless you do them." ~Charles D. Gill

Are You a Hold Out?

2010-11-10T07:11:00.004-05:00

What is the #1 Reason why we hold back? FEAR! We are afraid of making a mistake. So we hold back. There is only one question in life,

Are you going to go all out or are you going to hold back?

Some people try to average their way to success. Don't let this be you!

"Face you fear and then see it disappear."~Unknown
Are You an All Out or a Hold Out?

Quote of the month: "There are many wonderful things that won't be done unless you do them." ~Charles D. Gill

What is Your Belief System?

2010-11-09T07:22:00.004-05:00

"What is wrong with me? I am not good enough. I'll never get it right. I can't do it!"

Life is not an ability game it is a strategy game.

If you find the right strategies you will uncover your hidden abilities. But if you don't believe in your abilities you won't even look for the strategies." ~Dr. Rob Gilbert

Quote of the month: "There are many wonderful things that will never be done unless you do them." ~Charles D. Gill

What Are We Waiting For?

2010-11-04T09:50:00.000-04:00

When it is your time to go what will you remeber most about life? Your car? Your house? Your money? Everything you stress about?

Some people spend their whole lives thinking of those they hold grudges with. And then on their death bed they think of all of those who they truly appreciate in their life. Your focus determines your happiness. Why wait til death to adopt an apprecaition for life?

"If it won't matter tomorrow, why worry about it today?" ~D.V.

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Living a Stress Free Life

2010-11-03T08:31:00.003-04:00

Do you make yourself go to work? Go to school? Get up in the morning? When we make ourselves do things it brings stress. Do you let yourself, go to parties? Go on vacation? Go to the movies?

Make= "I continue to fight against what I don't want to do but have to do anyway. I refuse to enjoy my life until I get to do what I want to do." =STRESS

Let= "I have stopped fighting against what I have to do anyway. I will enjoy my life regardless of my circumstances."

"How much longer will you live allowing your circumstances to determine your happiness?"

Quote of the month: "There are many wonderful things that will never be done unless you do them." ~Charles D. Gill

What Are You Endlessly Interested In?

2010-11-01T07:09:00.003-04:00

What do you have to have everyday? What do you have to do? Is it showing your love for someone? Coffee? Watching a t.v. show? Your dog?

Or is it your life?

"Some people live life as thought they have a spare in the trunk."
Don't let this be you

Quote of the month: "There are many wonderful things that will never be done unless you do them." ~Charles D. Gill

Do you REALLY want better?

2010-10-26T00:00:00.001-04:00

Do you hate what you tolerate?

Do we tolerate:
The way people treat us?
Our unhappy relationships?
Our disorganized lives?

"Some people continue to function in their dysfunction." ~Joel Osteen

Don't let this be you!

Quote of the month: "A team of lambs led by a lion will always beat a team of lions led by a lamb." ~Alexander the Great

Stop Disrupting Your Life

2010-10-25T00:00:00.000-04:00

We are the only species of creation that worries.

And we are suppose to be the most intelligent.

Cows, pigs, lions, trees, flowers, etc... They don't worry!

Worry= focusing on everything you cannot control
Worry disrupts your life.

You choose to disrupt your life.

"When we worry we are admitting our insecurities" ~D.V.

Quote of the month: "A team of lambs led by a lion will always beat a team of lions led by a lamb." ~Alexander the Great

What Are We Teaching?

2010-10-22T00:00:00.001-04:00

What are children learning when we tell someone off? What are they learning when we have a poor reaction when someone cuts us off?

Are they learning how to stick up for themselves? Or are they learning how to respond when we don't get our way?

That is called putting our ego first.

"Ego has a voracious appetite, the more you feed it, the hungrier it gets." ~Nathaniel Bronner Jr.

Quote of the month: "A team of lambs led by a lion will always beat a team of lions led by a lamb." ~Alexander the Great

Take It In!

2010-10-21T00:00:00.000-04:00

Do you take in life? Or do you let life bounce off of you?

Are problems bouncing off of you? Or are you actively solving them?

Some people create problems. Some avoid problems. Some solve problems.

Who are you?
"Life is a series of problem solving events." ~Dr. Rob Gilbert

Quote of the month: "A team of lambs led by a lion will always beat a team of lions led by a lamb." ~Alexander the Great

Will You Do More Than is Expected?

2010-10-20T00:00:00.001-04:00

What happens when you do more than what is expected?

You get unexpected results.

"To accomplish your dreams you must go to extremes."

Quote of the month: "A team of lambs led by a lion will always beat a team of lions led by a lamb." ~Alexander the Great

#1 Way to Build Confidence

2010-10-19T00:00:00.000-04:00

I expect more from you than you expect from yourself! Who is the most important person in this world?

YOU!

"#1 Way to build confidence= Exceed your own expectations."

Quote of the month: "A team of lambs led by a lion will always beat a team of lions led by a lamb." ~Alexander the Great

Why ask Why?

2010-10-15T00:00:00.001-04:00

"Ours is not to reason why.
Ours is but to do and die." ~Alfred Lord Tennyson

"Sometimes we judge others by there actions and then judge ourselves by our potential."

Quote of the month: "A team of lambs led by a lion will always beat a team of lions led by a lamb." ~Alexander the Great

Release your full potential on this Mon. Oct. 18 7pm at the North Edison, Library. "Flip the Switch" will absolutely amaze you. Part of the seminar is given in the dark. To Register just email darrensthoughts@yahoo.com

Quit! Give up!

2010-10-14T00:00:00.000-04:00

While riding past his old job a dad told his son, "That is where I use to work." His son said, "Use to work?" Dad responded, "Yes I quit." His son started to cry. Dad said, "Son what is wrong." The son replied, "But daddy you told me you don't quit at anything." His father said, "Son. I didn't quit because I was giving up. I quit because I was going up!

"Sometimes we have to quit where we are to get to where we want to be."

Quote of the month: "A team of lambs led by a lion will always beat a team of lions led by a lamb." ~Alexander the Great

How Will You Get There?

2010-09-22T00:01:00.002-04:00

How do you go from where you are to where you really want to be?

Ask a professional.

"A professional does their best when they feel like it least."

Quote of the month: "To accomplish your dreams we must go to extremes."

FLIP THE SWITCH! Find out how to go from where you are to where you REALLY want to be.
Mon. Oct. 18 at 7pm North Edison Library
To register just call 732.548.3045 ext. 1

The Tragedy of Life

2010-09-18T00:00:00.002-04:00

How did you make yesterday count? How about today?

"The tragedy of life is not that it ends, but that we wait too long to live it."

Unleash Self Confidence Forever
Free Seminar Guaranteed to amaze you Sept. 21 7pm Hopewell Library
To register just call 609.737.2610

Quote of the month: "To accomplish your dreams we must go to extremes." ~Unknown

How Do You Feel? Who Cares

2010-09-17T00:00:00.001-04:00

What determines your level of commitment? Your actions? Or Your Feelings?

If your feelings dicatate your actions, your may have developed a close friendship with procrastination. Let your actions determine your attitude!

"Thoughts determine what you want. Actions determine what you get." ~Unknown

Unleash Self Confidence Forever
Free Seminar Guaranteed to amaze you Sept. 21 7pm Hopewell Library To register just call 609.737.2610

Quote of the month: "To accomplish your dreams we must go to extremes." ~Unknown

Goals? Or Wishes?

2010-09-16T00:00:00.002-04:00

Do you have long term goals that you are not actively going after in your daily life? Our actions determine our outcome not our feelings. If we wait until we feel like it to take action in life, we turn our goals into wishes.

"A commitment is keeping your word after the feeling has passed." ~Unknown

Unleash Self Confidence Forever
Free Seminar Guaranteed to amaze you Sept. 21 7pm Hopewell Library To register just call 609.737.2610

Quote of the month: "To accomplish your dreams we must go to extremes."

Don't Listen

2010-09-13T07:39:00.006-04:00

Don't listen! Don't listen! Don't listen! Don't allow their input to determine your output.

"There will be those who tell you, you can't make it because of where you live, because of how you look, because of the way you talk. We all have heard that--I almost listened." ~L. Douglas Wilder

Quote of the month: "To accomplish your dreams we must go to extremes." ~Unknown

Unleash Self Confidence Forever
Free Seminar Guaranteed to amaze you Sept. 21 7pm Hopewell Library To register just call 609.737.2610

What is Patience?

2010-09-09T08:17:00.002-04:00

Patience is not something you have. It is something you build. How will you respond today?

"Patience is not the ability to wait. It is how you act while you are waiting." ~Joyce Meyer

Quote of the month: "To accomplish your dreams we must go to extremes." ~Unknown

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Let It Go If You Want To Grow

2010-09-07T00:00:00.000-04:00

Dedicated to our fallen soldier Army Pvt. Charles M. High IV who was killed on Aug. 17.

In order to grow you have to let go of the past.
Give it up to go up! Great adventures of our lives are waiting for us. Success is wating for YOU!

For where you want to be, there is no room in the future for it. You may think you are waiting on life, but life is waiting on us. Success is not defined by holding onto grudges, and bringing the past with you into your future.

"You may want to be more intrested in the future because you are going to spend the rest of your life in it." ~Unknown

Quote of the month: "The meaning of life is to discover your gifts. The purpose of life is to give them away." ~David Viscott

Are You Eluding Happiness

2010-09-03T00:00:00.002-04:00

Some people want to be happy but they continue to elude it. How do you elude happiness?

That is easy. Just focus on what you don't like about your significant other, co-workers, in-laws, boss, etc... Do you go out of your way to show your appreciation for others or do you celebrate their faults with others on a daily basis?

Stop training your brain to be a fault finder. Be a hope finder.

"H.O.P.E.= Hold On Possibilities Exist." ~Jim from Ringwood

Quote of the month: "To accomplish your dreams we must go to extremes." ~Unknown

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How Do You Define Yourself?

2010-09-02T00:00:00.002-04:00

Do you define others the same way? Maybe you are allowing a pain from the past to define your worth. A negative past does not disqualify you from having a positive future.

"We define ourselves by the best that is in us, not the worst that has happened to us." ~Edward Lewis

Quote of the month: "The purpose of life is to discover your gift. The meaning of life is to give it away." ~David Viscott

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Pro! That's it!

2010-09-01T00:00:00.000-04:00

Pro means for something; in favor of. Stop adding the word crastination after pro. Do you know what the word crastination means? It means nothing! Because it's not even a word. When you mix the two it means For-Nothing.

If pro is for and crastination is nothing then why do we keep putting the two together. What are you for? Are you the pro? You are! Start that project today. "Start starting and stop stopping." ~D.V. "Remember it's the start that stops most people."

"Visualize your actions and then Actualize your visions."

Thank you for reading.
Quote of the month: "To accomplish your dreams we must go to extremes."

#1 Principle of Success

2010-08-31T00:00:00.000-04:00

Why are some people more successful than others? Do we do what we have to do whether we feel like it or not? Will you give up what you want right now for what you want the most?

Kop Kopmeyer a legend in the field of success studied success for over 50 years came up with 1000 principles for success. When asked, "Of all the success principles which one is the most important?" He answered, "There are 999 other success principles but without self- discipline, none of them work."

"Without self-discipline, a person with every blessing of background, education and opportunity will seldom rise above mediocrity." ~Brian Tracy

Quote of the month: "Imagination continually frustrates traditio. That's its job." ~John Pfeiffer

What Are You Bringing?

2010-08-30T00:00:00.000-04:00

Do you bring others to life? Do you leave people feeling bitter or better? It is sad to say but some people might be bringing you to death.

"There are 2 ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton

Quote of the month: "Imagination continually frustrates tradition. That's its job." ~John Pfeiffer

Don't Resist- PERSIST!

2010-08-29T10:47:00.009-04:00

Persist

Until

Something

Happens

Quote of the month: "The purpose of life is to discover your gifts. The meaning of life is to give them away." ~John Viscott

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Imagine What?

2010-08-28T00:00:00.003-04:00

Some use their imagination to think of things to worry about. Most of which have not happened yet.

"Use your imagination. Not to scare yourself to death. But to inspire yourself to live." ~Adele Brookman

Quote of the month: "The purpose of life is to discover your gifts. The meaning of life is to give them away." ~John Viscott

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Are You Still Waiting?

2010-08-28T00:00:00.000-04:00

Dedicated to our fallen soldier Army Pfc. Benjamin G. Chisholm who was killed on Aug. 17.
What do you want out of life? A better question might be, what can you give?

"Some people are waiting for their ship to come in. But they haven't sent a ship out yet." ~Joel Osteen

Quote of the month: "The purpose of life is to discover your gifts. The meaning of life is to give them away." ~John Viscott

Give Up!

2010-08-27T00:00:00.001-04:00

Dedicated to our fallen soldier on Aug. 15, at age 24 Jamal M. Rhett.
"You are not good enough. It will never happen for you. You are not smart enough. If I were you I wouldn't do that."

Are you tired of other people trying to set your limits?

"There are those who will tell you, you can't make it because of where you live, because of how you look, because of the way you talk. We all have heard that-I almost listened." ~L. Douglas Wilder

Quote of the month: "The purpose of life is to discover your gift. The meaning of lift is to give it away." ~David Viscott

Are You Being Poisoned

2010-08-26T00:00:00.000-04:00

Some people spend so much time complaining about their significant other, their friends, their family members. Are you spreading this poison? Are your conversations toxic?

If you constantly listen to other people vent and complain you are becoming a crutch in their life. You are giving them a license to complain. In which case you might be letting the poison spread. They are making you focus on other people's faults. These people may be destroying your enthusiasm for life.

"Your ears are not garbage cans for other people's trash." ~Joel Osteen

Quote of the month: "Imagination frustrates tradition, That's its job." ~John Pfeiffer

2 Reasons Why We Talk About Others

2010-08-25T00:00:00.003-04:00

Do you spend your days talking about how everyone else lives their lives: celebrities, friends, in-laws, those you hold grudges with?

If you spend your days talking about other people's lives, chances are you are not interested enough in your own. Are you learning from them, or complaining about them?

Reason 1: To celebrate them
Reason 2: To vent and complain about them

"Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain and most fools do." ~Benjamin Franklin
Quote of the month: "Imagination is frustrates tradition. That's its job." ~John Pfeiffer

The Principle of Appreciation Is a Lifestyle!

2010-08-24T00:00:00.002-04:00

The Principle of Appreciation in a Restaurant.

Going out to eat, Do you:
-thank cook?
-call the manger over to your table to show your appreciation?
-shake the servers hand after the meal thanking them?
-actually remember the servers name during your meal?

The question is will you go out of your way to show your appreciation to someone today?

"We get the most when we give the most." ~Unknown

Quote of the month: "Imagination continues to frustrate tradition. That's its job." ~John Feiffer

Leave The Past Alone

2010-08-23T00:00:00.001-04:00

Get rid of the grudge! Stop living hoping to get even! Stop allowing yourself to feel the pain that you are carrying from the past!

Wait wait. Wait a minute. Maybe you like feeling that way. Maybe you just want to justify your anger. Ok. Then carry on.

But remember this, "The past is place of reference not residence." ~Joel Osteen
Some reside there their whole lives.

Quote of the month: "Imagination continues to frustrate tradition. That's its job." ~John Feiffer

Open Your Eyes Wider!

2010-08-22T00:00:00.001-04:00

Your attitude is a result of how you view each situation.

"A pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity; An optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty." ~Winston Churchill

Quote of the month: "Imagination frustrates tradition. That's its job." ~John Pfeiffer

Expect More From Yourself

2010-08-21T00:00:00.000-04:00

Are we living up to our own expectations of ourselves?

"Character is something you weren't born with and must take responsibility for forming." ~Jim Rohn

Quote of the month: "Imagination continues to frustrate tradition. That's its job." ~John Pfeiffer

Turning Grudges into Appreciation

2010-08-20T00:00:00.001-04:00

The Principle of Appreciation is going out of your way to get even with all of those who have done great things for you. Instead, some people hold on to things that bother them and can't wait to get even= "Biting the dog because the dog bit you." ~Dr. Gilbert

Step 1 and 2 See yesterdays post.

Step 3- Write a thank you letter to all of those people that you listed with the specification that you wrote next to each name as to why you are thanking them. Only needs to be a paragraph long.

"Silent grattitude is not much use to anyone." ~Gladys B. Stern

Quote of the month: "Imagination continues to frustrate tradition. That's its job." ~John Pfeiffer

Adopt The Principle of Appreciation

2010-08-19T00:00:00.002-04:00

Steps to adopting the Principle of Appreciation. It is time to get your brain to redirect it's focus from holding a grudge to getting even with everyone who has done great things for you!

Step 1- Make a list of all those who have assisted you in becoming who you are.
Step 2- Write one specific thing next to each name of what that person did for you.

Step 3 is tomorrow.

"Blessed are those that can give without remembering and receive without forgetting." ~Unknown

Quote of the month: "Imagination continues to frustrate tradition. That's its job." ~John Pfeiffer

The Principle of Appreciation

2010-08-18T00:00:00.000-04:00

The #1 thing to look for in a companion is The P.O.A. Those who put appreciation first. How many of us have a list in our mind of all those who we are holding a grudge with? Maybe because we have trained our brains to focus on what we don't want to see repeated.

In which case when your significant other disappoints you what have you trained your brain to remember? To appreciate their strengths or hold a grudge against their faults?

Would you like to be at peace with the past? Would you like to let the past go and live a free life?
Find out the steps tomorrow to adopt The Principle of Appreciation.

"In order to grow we have to let go." ~Ed Agresta

Quote of the month: "Imagination continues to frustrate tradition. That's its job." ~John Pfeiffer

Grudges= Stress

2010-08-17T00:00:00.001-04:00

"Holding a grudge is like drinking a bottle of poison and expecting someone else to feel the pain." ~Unknown

Who shared this bottle with you when you were younger? Are you sharing the bottle with anyone? Grudges are a learned behavior.

Let's reverse this process. How? By adopting the Principle of Appreciation. Check back tomorrow.

"Revenge is like biting the dog because the dog bit you." ~Unknown

Quote of the month: "Imagination continues to frustrate tradition. That's its job." ~John Pfeiffer

Do You Like Being Stressed?

2010-08-16T00:00:00.002-04:00

This Week learn how to be at peace with the past, with the grudges you have.

Sounds like a dumb question because most people don't want stress but continue to create ways to bring about stress. One of the main ways to create stress is to hold a grudge.

Holding a grudge is a learned behavior. Who did you learn it from? Are you teaching it to anyone else? Would you like to get rid of that pain? If so check back tomorrow.

"Holding a grudge is like drinking a bottle of poison and expecting someone else to feel the pain."
~Unknown

Quote of the month: "Imagination continues to frustrate tradition. That's its job." ~John Pfeiffer

What Are You Part Of?

2010-08-15T00:00:00.000-04:00

The problem or the solution? Is the way you are handling problems causing more of a problem?

"Life is a continuos series of problem solving events." ~Dr. Rob Gilbert

Quote of the month: "Imagination continually frustrates tradition. That's its job." ~John Pfeiffer

Limits Are Meant to Be Stretched Not Set

2010-08-14T11:00:00.001-04:00

The only time we grow is when we stretch.

"Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go." ~T.S. Eliot

Quote of the month: "Imagination continually frustrates tradition. That's its job." ~John Pfeiffer

Are You Bored?

2010-08-13T09:50:00.002-04:00

Do you ever say you are bored? When people first get married, move or get a new job, they are excited. But how much time passes by before they say, "I'm bored." No matter where you go in the world, Jamaica, Hawaii, Bahamas, etc... people are bored all over the world.

"Boredom is an emotional state when individuals are uninterested in the opportunities surrounding them."

Quote of the month: "Imagination continually frustrates tradition. That's its job." ~John Pfeiffer

Who is Limiting You? It Might Be You!

2010-08-11T11:45:00.004-04:00

Are your thoughts limiting you? Or are you actively changing and enhancing them? The Cuban Guy, a Great Motivational Speaker once said, "Life gets easier when we get smarter."

"Problems cannot be solved by the same level of thinking that created them." ~Albert Einstein

Quote of the month: "Imagination continually frustrates tradition. That's its job." ~John Pfeiffer

Do You Know Who Killed Desire?

2010-08-10T02:50:00.005-04:00

SATISFACTION! Killed Desire.
"I'm good enough. My life is ok. Everything is fine."

"Satisfaction is the death of desire." ~HateBreed

Quote of the month: "Imagination continually frustrates tradition. That's its job." ~John Pfeiffer

Today is The Day

2010-08-09T00:00:00.000-04:00

What investment today will you make in your own life, so a week, a month or a year from now you can make a huge withdrawal.

"With every rising of the sun,
think of your life as just begun."
~Unknown

Quote of the month: "Imagination continually frustartes tradition. That's it job." ~John Pfeiffer

Stop Poisoning Your Mind!

2010-08-02T00:00:00.000-04:00

You may not be realizing it but condemnation, anger, holding grudges, and the desire to get even tears down your health and your mind. If we don't let it go we cannot grow.

The great Notre Dame Football Coach, Lou Holtz once said, "I am going to make it my life's goal to get even with EVERYONE who has done nice things for me."

Thank you for reading.
Quote of the month:

Today Is Not The Day

2010-08-01T00:00:00.000-04:00

It will never happen on this day. This day does not exist although many believe in this day. Many plan to get work done on this day. Many put off projects until this day. Many make promises that they will get it done on this day. Many use this day to better their relationship with their best friend, Procrastination.

What is the day? SOMEDAY. Ever hear someone say, "I will get around to it Someday."

"Someday is not a day of the week." ~Unknown

Quote of the month:

Reasons? Or Results?

2010-07-31T10:21:00.003-04:00

What is it going to be? Reasons? Or Results?

Reasons why you can't? Or results why you can?

"Determination is not taking action because of your feelings. It is taking action in spite of your feelings." ~Unknown

Quote of the month: "Commitment is keeping your word after the feeling has passed." ~Unknown

How Do You Climb a Mountain?

2010-07-30T00:00:00.001-04:00

By one step at a time. You might be saying, "Of course. How else would you climb a mountain?" Well, then my question is, "How come some of you are not climbing?" What are the mountains in your life? What goals have you thinking, that it is too high to climb. Is it losing a lot of weight? Is it reading a book with over 300 pages? Is it writing that 15 page paper? How much further would you be if you spend 5 straight hours on it? Whatever your mountain is just take 1 step a day.

Start the climb. Just do that one thing 10 minutes a day. Read, walk, start that project. After 30 days, your 5 hours of effort will be a reality.

"If you don't start, you will never finish."

Thank you for reading.
Quote of the month: "Commitment is keeping your word after the feeling has passed." ~Unknown

Accelerate

2010-07-29T08:20:00.005-04:00

Have you slowed down in life? Have you taken your foot off of the gas pedal? As children we may been on overdrive all day long. But where did our enthusiasm go?

Who soured your enthusiasm? YOU! Did you allow the outside voices to determine your inside voice? It is time for that little voice to shift gears and take your foot off of the break. Don't allow other people's opinion to determine how fast you go. If you want to dance, then DANCE! Don't wait until the dance floor gets filled.

Stop Coasting through life. "When we coast, chances are we are going down hill."

Thank you for reading.
Quote of the month: "Commitment is keeping your word after the feeling has passed." ~Unknown

You Can't Win

2010-07-28T07:59:00.004-04:00

How much longer do we need to vent about something or someone. Are you still fighting? Are you winning? Sometimes the more we fight against it the longer it keeps us from growing. How long has it been? Are you still looking through the rear view mirror? Do you know just about everything in the world that is bothering us is from past events or comments about us.

When something does not go your way, you have 2 choices:
Choice #1 Fight it.

Choice #2 Accept it.

Are you tired of fighting against something that you can no longer change? If you are fighting against something that you cannot control then don't expect to win.

"We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope." ~MLK

Quote of the month: "Commitment is keeping your word after the feeling has passed." ~Unknown

Are You Living or Existing?

2010-07-27T08:01:00.004-04:00

What is your purpose today? Do you speak just to speak? Or do you speak with intention? Are you living your life intentionally?

How many things will you do today that will bring you closer to your goals? Some people want to decrease stress but they continue to speak about what bothers them. Some people have a fear of speaking but may not take daily opportunities to speak up. That describes someone who is just existing or just hoping things will change. Don't Exist, Persist!

Everyday you have thousands of life lessons to be learned and lived out. Will you learn and put into action anything today? Sometimes we only get one opportunity. Don't let the life lesson pass you by!

"Life is for the living. Don't just go through today. Grow through today." ~Ed Agresta

Quote of the month: "Commitment is keeping your word after the feeling has passed." ~Unknown

What is Your Obsession?

2010-07-26T00:00:00.002-04:00

Is it caffeine? Alcohol? Cake? Ice Cream? Food?

Is it a certain t.v. show? A certain artist?

Is your obsession sleeping? Is it being comfortable?

Or is it Living? Are you obsessed with life? Do you get as much as you can out of life each day? Or are you waiting until the end of it before you really start to enjoy it and live freely. Be alive. Make an impact wherever you go.

"If your absence doesn't make a difference then neither will your presence."

Thank you for reading.
Quote of the month: "Commitment is keeping your word after the feeling has passed."

Once We Stop Growing, We Stop Living

2010-07-23T07:53:00.002-04:00

Why spend time and energy seeking to improve if success is available only to people with the right genes? This type of thinking is a called a Fixed Mindset.

Growth mindset people see failure as a catapult to their success.
Example: Shizuka Arakawa-while training for the Olympics as a figure-skater she fell over twenty thousand times. Shizuka interpreted failing as an opportunity to learn and develop. She took it as evidence that she was improving.

"I have failed over and over again. And that is why I succeed." ~Michael Jordan
"If you find yourself believing that you must be the way you've always been, you're arguing against your own personal growth." ~Wayne Dyer

Thank you for reading.
Quote of the month: "Commitment is keeping your word after the feeling has passed." ~Unknown