What is Your Life Worth to You?

$20! Would you pick it up if it were on the ground. Most people would not. Why? Because of how they feel.

Confusing? Most people don't pick it up, because they allow their emotions to control their MOTIONS! What is your day worth to you? What did you pick up from yesterday? What did you pick up today? Most people don't see the value in their days until they have past.

Everyday is filled with opportunities. What are you doing with yours?

"Happy times are remembered long after they're gone." ~Unknown

Quote of the month: "Be who you are. No one else is qualified."

I Wish. I Wish. I Wish.

"We don't need wishbones. We need back bones." ~Joyce Meyer

I wish I was out of school. I wish I started my career. I wish I had more money. I wish I ate better. I wish I had better discipline. I wish I was in better shape.

Some people spend most of their life wishing instead of acting.

"Thoughts determine what you want. Actions determine what you get." ~Dr. Rob Gilbert

Quote of the month: "Be who you are. No one else is qualified." ~Unknown

It Is Time!

Happy 4th of July

"He who knows best knows how little he knows." ~Thomas Jefferson
Dedicated to a Great up and coming Basketball Coach, Andy Hernandez.

Some people spend their whole lives visualizing their actions.

IT IS NOW TIME TO ACTUALIZE YOUR VISIONS!

"In order to get what we've never had, we must do what we've never done." ~Unknown

Quote of the month: "Be who you are. No one else is qualified."

WHERE IS THAT FIRE YOU ONCE HAD FOR LIFE?

Are you there yet? More importantly, who is helping you get there? Where is your enthusiasm for life?

If you are not yet where you want to be, find people who can help you get there. Enthusiastic people are excited for their journey of life. Are you excited for yours? Any idea where you are going?

Someone once said, "Well I am coasting throught life. What is wrong with that?" Another person said, "The only time we coast is when we are going down hill."

Remember: When you walk around, you are selling what you have. Are there any buyers?

EnhusI.A.S.M.= I Am Sold Myself

Quote of the month: "Be who you are. No one else is qualified."

What is your Problem?

Did you know that life is a continuous series of problem solving events?

Most people may not know this because on a day to day basis, some people overreact when confronted with spontaneous minuscule problems.
But now you know.

"Do problems get in the way of life? Or are problems a way of life."

Quote of the month: "In order to get what you want, you must give what you've got." ~D.V.

Train Your Brain

Everyday we are training our thinking. "Our thinking habits are a result of all that we have thought." ~DV
What are you thinking about? What training does your brain go through on a daily basis?

If you trained your brain to worry,
If you trained your brain to fear,
If you trained your brain to find fault,
If you trained your brain to be jealous,
then when these thoughts are missing, your brain goes looking for them. Why? Because once your brain gets use to something and it is not there, it feels uncomfortable without it. Yes, some people feel odd if they are not worried or venting about something.

Ever notice the same people who argue all the time and worry all the time. It seems as though they are addicted to it.

"If you don't control your mind. Your mind will control you."

Quote of the month: "In order to get what you want, you must give what you've got." ~DV

Why Do People Give Up?

Because, "Most of life's failures are those people who didn't realize how close they were to success when they gave up." ~Abe Lincoln

Don't allow your feelings to interfere with your actions. Most people allow their setbacks to kill the enthusiasm they once had for achieving their goal. Don' let this be you!
Persistence breaks down resistance.

"W.I.N.= Whatever Is Necessary."~Rich Ruffalo

Quote of the month: "In order to get what you want, you must give what you've got." ~DV

What Determines Your Day?

Is it the weather?
Is it your checklist?
Is it your grudges?
Is it your worries?
Or is it your attitude?

"Do the days events determine your attitude? Or does your attitude determine your day?" ~Dr. Rob Gilbert

Quote of the month: "In order to get what you want, you must give what you've got." ~DV

Start Today!

Special hello to Ash McKellar.
"It's too difficult. Don't attempt it. Give up!"

Is this voice in your mind speaking defeat over you? Maybe you want to get in better shape, or get better grades, or stop eating candy or chips. No matter what it is I can guarantee you this. 3 months from now you are either going to say, "I'm glad I did." Or, "I wish I had."

Remember, "The pain is temporary, but the pride is forever."

Quote of the month: "People don't care how much you know until you show them how much you care."

Are You a Motivational Speaker?

Dedicated to all of the veterans who know the most important aspect of life, "It's about others."

Yes you are! If you have ever given advice to a child, a friend or a spouse, that is a form of motivation. You may even consider it a PEP talk.

"Positive Energy Prevails" ~Phil Aronson

Quote of the month: "People don't care how much you know until you show them how much you care."

Feel Feel Feel

Special hello to Chrysti Lauter.
If you want to be the best at what you do, you cannot allow your feelings to get in the way of your actions. Don’t allow your feelings to decide your actions. Allow your actions to decide your feelings. In other words don’t act you feel. Feel how you act. If you want to be the best basketball player, best student, best worker or if just want to be great at anything, you cannot allow your feelings to interfere with your actions.

"Force yourself to act differently than you feel."

Quote of the month: "People don't care how much you know until you show them how much you care."

Are You on the Right Bus?

Special hello to Gailmarie Sprague.
Is it taking you where you want to go? If not then you might want to get off.
"If you don't know where you are going in life, you will probably never get there." ~Yogi Berra

Are you tired of going around and around the same circle everyday? Are yyou stuck in an unadventurous routine? What you might be saying is that you have lost the enthusiasm you once had for your life. If that is true then you might have stepped on to the wrong bus.

Depending on your life, you may not be able to get off. In which case, don't allow your circumstances to kill your enthusiasm for life.

"Life is not meant to be endured. Life is meant to be enjoyed." ~Joel Osteen

Quote of the month: "People don't care how much you know until you show them how much you care."

There is NO NEUTRAL!

Special hello to Kara DeMaio.
"A plant is either growing or dying."
We are all on the same team. Don't believe me? People in an elevator usually are just individuals and don't realize that they are on a team. But if the elevator gets stuck, watch how quickly they become a team and work together.

We have always been on a team. We just don't practice together until there is a crisis situation. In which case you must understand this: No matter where you go in life, you are either bringing something to the party or taking something away.

Are you contributing to the environment or contaminating it? Are you helping or hurting? Teams are either pulling together or pulling apart.

You attitude is affecting everyone around you. The grudges and worries that you carry with you may be getting in the way of your teammates: at work, in school, in a waiting room, in your family, etc... People are watching the way you live. Your actions are preaching to others.

"We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give."

Quote of the month: "People don't care how much you know until you show them how much you care."

Attitude is Everything

"Your attitude is the fragrance of your heart."

Who determines your attitude? You? Or is everyone else's actions in charge of your mood? Some people's mood for the day is determined by whether or not their favorite team won last night. Some people's mood is determined by the way other people drive before they get to work. We can do this all day.

You will get what you look for. What are you looking for? Is it peace, happiness, excitement? Or are you looking for worry, defeat and bitterness?

"Start controlling your life and stop allowing your life control you." ~Joyce Meyer

Quote of the month: "People don't care how much you know until you show them how much you care."

Do You Have a Habit of Peace?

If your answer is no, then answer this. Are your actions matching the results that you want?

Are you worried about everything?
Do you spend today trying to figure out tomorrow?
Do you spend most of your life in reasoning? Some always have to know, why?

Some people can't rest until they have everything figured out.

Is this what you call living? You cannot have this and have peace.

"Peace is being able to give up what you cannot control and focus on what you can."

Quote of the month: "People don't care how much you know until you show them how much you care."

How to Give Other People Power?

Let them rent space in your head.

When we allow others to rent space in our head, here is what happens:
they walk in, throw a party, trash the place, leave and then you are left with all the garbage. How much garbage do you clean up on a day to day basis?

Stop letting other people's thoughts control your feelings. When you do this, you are saying that everyone else is in control of your mood.

"Stop giving other people the responsiblity for your personal joy." ~Joyce Meyer

Thank you Ed Agresta.
Quote of the month: "People don't care how much you know, until you show them how much you care."

Why is life unfair?

Unfair happenings in your life are not meant to destroy you. They are meant to strengthen you.

"The brick walls in life are there for a reason. They are not there to keep us out. They are there to see how badly we want it." ~Randy Pausch

Quote of the month: "People don't care how much you know until you show them how much you care."

The Gift of Goodbye

Positive people are the fuel that inspires those who need it.

You cannot hang around negative people and expect to live a positive life. Sometimes in order to grow, you have to let go.

Maybe these words are a little harsh. But ask yourself one question. How many people in your life are inspiring you to be the person you want to become? How many have you inspired to get to the next level?

"I'll hang around anyone, as long as I am affecting them and they aren't infecting me." ~Joyce Meyer

Quote of the month: "People don't care how much you know until you show them how much you care."

How do you handle life?

Special hello to Michael P. Hrubos.
The result of your attitude is determined by how you view every situation.

Good things become memories.
Bad things become lessons.
~Ed Agresta

"Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." ~Randy Pausch

Quote of the month: "People don't care how much you know until you show them how much you care."

Why Worry?

Dedicated to all the Mothers of the world.
If you want to be stressed out, then worry.
If you need more anxiety, then worry.
If you must have control, then you will spend much of your life in a state of worry.
If you don't want inner peace, then worry.
If you have a hard time relaxing, then you probably worry.

Some people spend most of their lives trying to get everything in order so they don't have to worry about the future. But they eventually find something else to worry about.

You choose to worry. Worry doesn't choose you.
"If you think how you always did, you will get what you always got; worry."

Quote of the month: "People don't care how much you know until you show them how much you care."

Definition of Worry

It seems like some parents have children because they don't have enough things to worry about. We know this isn't true. But worry is not the result of children. Worry is the result of not having faith.

Do you have Faith? Or do you have Worry? Faith and worry cannot exist.

Worry-tormenting yourself with negative thoughts

Why would we ever want to torment ourselves by thinking these thoughts over our own family or friends?

"Worry is like rocking in a rocking chair; it passes the time but doesn't get you anywhere."

Quote of the month: "People don't care how much you know until you show them how much you care."

Yea, I know, I know

Special hello to Lauren Frasco.
Ever give advice and the persons response is, "I know, I know."

"If you know what to do, but you don't do what you know; then it doesn't matter that you know what to do."
Sound confusing? If you don't understand this, then your actions may repeat it.

K-A=O
Knowledge without Action equals Nothing.

"To get what we've never had we must do what we've never done."

Quote of the month: "People don't care how much you know until you show them how much you care."

Shut Up!

Special Hello to Vanessa Rodriguez.
If you say it to them, don't get upset when they say it to you.

"If you don't like the way someone treats you and you continue to treat them the same way, then you will just get more of the same treatment."

Ever tell someone to shut up? What we are really saying might be, "I don't want you to speak about things that I don't want you to speak about. I control what you say."

This may not be the message that you're intending to send out, but this might be the message that many are receiving.

How much of our lives are spent trying to control other adults?
"Shut up! STOP! Don't do that!"

"Control your emotions or your emotions will control you."

Quote of the month: "People don't care how much you know, until you show them how much you care."

Respect Should Prevail When the Conversation Fails

Ever notice that some people speak to pets with more respect than they speak to each other.

Why do many of us judge others by their actions, but then judge ourselves by our capabilities?

"Well they cut me off!" "They were rude first." "He disrespected me." We could all use these excuses to react poorly to others. Your reactions to negative situations are a peek into who you are.

"A negative reaction is a confession of pain."

Quote of the month: "People don't care how much you know, until you show them how much you care."

Happiness is a Decision

Some people die at 50 years old, but they don't get buried until 80.

Down allow the media or other people talk you into having a down day. Do you know how much energy it takes to hold a grudge and be bitter?

Stop reliving your disappointments!

Happiness is not linked to those who have hurt you. Happiness stems from the lessons in it and the ability to enjoy your life, regardless of what obstacle comes your way. Your obligation is to protect your joy. Stop giving it away to things you can't control.

"When you don't get up with a purpose you start losing your desire to live."

Quote of the month: "People don't care how much you know, until you show them how much you care."

Peer Pressure?

A special hello to one of the most enthusiastic students at Montclair State University, Matt Boyle.
Is peer pressure really an excuse for us to be a follower? When we succumb to peer pressure, it takes away from our individuality. We are saying that other people's opinions are more valuable than our own.

Definition of peer pressure- What will other people think. What will other people say.

Don't you get tired living by these ten words? Self confidence is more about what you think and less about what they think.

"Be who you are. No one else is qualified."

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

What Are You Worth?

The value of your life is not in the things that you own. Your value is determined by the contribution you make to this world.

Everyday is an opportunity to bring value to others.

"People will usually go towards those who enlarge them and will stray away from those that devalue them."

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

When Will You Be Happy?

Special Hello to Randie Berner.
STOP making other people responsible for your personal enjoyment!

"Well if they stop doing that then I'll be happy. Once I find that one person I'll be happy. When my friends stop telling me what to do I'll be happy."

If our happiness is decided by other peoples actions, then how are we ever going to be happy?


"Enjoy what you have. Because once you don't have it, you can no longer enjoy it."

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

Are you an Adapter or Controller?

"Shut up! Come here. If I were you I wouldn't do that. Why do you do that? You should have finished college. Why are you still with him? Stop doing that, it annoys me. Your just annoying." If this is an adult speaking to another adult, what they are really saying is, "Your actions are not fulfilling my expectations." These phrases are selfish motives used by the controller.

Controllers spend most of their life controlling instead of adapting. People who try to control things usually are bossy and demanding.

They spend their whole lives trying to control others, to stay in line with their comfort. They never learned to adapt. People who learn to adapt, trust that everything will work out. Controlling people only trust after it works out. So they spend most of their life trying to control others to fit in with their expectations and comfort.

"Happiness is not the absence of conflict; but the ability to cope with it."

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

Stop Wasting Your Energy

What are you stressed out about today? You don't have to answer this question. But let me ask you some dumb questions.

What did you stress out about on Jan. 10 of this year? How about on July 8, 2008? What did you stress about on April 28, 2004?

If it won't matter tomorrow, why worry today?

"Your life was not meant to be endured. It was meant to be enjoyed." ~Joel Osteen

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

Venting or Adapting?

When we speak of declaring a war on selfishness, we must first start with declaring a war on venting.

Venting is a selfish controlling quality.

When we vent or get angry we are really saying that, THINGS AREN'T GOING THE WAY I WANT IT TO. Here is a thought... Adapt to it.

But instead most people say, "Well that's not fair. Why did that happen?" Do you really want to know why? Or do you just wish it didn't happen? Stop spending your life getting offended. Stop thinking that it is your obligation to get angry when you don't get your way. Whether the person you are angry with is right or wrong, DOES NOT MATTER.

If you want to have inner peace, you must give up your thoughts of controlling others actions. One thing that you are in control of is adapting to it.

"You are 100% responsible for your reactions."

Quote of the month "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."