Peer Pressure?

A special hello to one of the most enthusiastic students at Montclair State University, Matt Boyle.
Is peer pressure really an excuse for us to be a follower? When we succumb to peer pressure, it takes away from our individuality. We are saying that other people's opinions are more valuable than our own.

Definition of peer pressure- What will other people think. What will other people say.

Don't you get tired living by these ten words? Self confidence is more about what you think and less about what they think.

"Be who you are. No one else is qualified."

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

What Are You Worth?

The value of your life is not in the things that you own. Your value is determined by the contribution you make to this world.

Everyday is an opportunity to bring value to others.

"People will usually go towards those who enlarge them and will stray away from those that devalue them."

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

When Will You Be Happy?

Special Hello to Randie Berner.
STOP making other people responsible for your personal enjoyment!

"Well if they stop doing that then I'll be happy. Once I find that one person I'll be happy. When my friends stop telling me what to do I'll be happy."

If our happiness is decided by other peoples actions, then how are we ever going to be happy?


"Enjoy what you have. Because once you don't have it, you can no longer enjoy it."

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

Are you an Adapter or Controller?

"Shut up! Come here. If I were you I wouldn't do that. Why do you do that? You should have finished college. Why are you still with him? Stop doing that, it annoys me. Your just annoying." If this is an adult speaking to another adult, what they are really saying is, "Your actions are not fulfilling my expectations." These phrases are selfish motives used by the controller.

Controllers spend most of their life controlling instead of adapting. People who try to control things usually are bossy and demanding.

They spend their whole lives trying to control others, to stay in line with their comfort. They never learned to adapt. People who learn to adapt, trust that everything will work out. Controlling people only trust after it works out. So they spend most of their life trying to control others to fit in with their expectations and comfort.

"Happiness is not the absence of conflict; but the ability to cope with it."

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

Stop Wasting Your Energy

What are you stressed out about today? You don't have to answer this question. But let me ask you some dumb questions.

What did you stress out about on Jan. 10 of this year? How about on July 8, 2008? What did you stress about on April 28, 2004?

If it won't matter tomorrow, why worry today?

"Your life was not meant to be endured. It was meant to be enjoyed." ~Joel Osteen

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

Venting or Adapting?

When we speak of declaring a war on selfishness, we must first start with declaring a war on venting.

Venting is a selfish controlling quality.

When we vent or get angry we are really saying that, THINGS AREN'T GOING THE WAY I WANT IT TO. Here is a thought... Adapt to it.

But instead most people say, "Well that's not fair. Why did that happen?" Do you really want to know why? Or do you just wish it didn't happen? Stop spending your life getting offended. Stop thinking that it is your obligation to get angry when you don't get your way. Whether the person you are angry with is right or wrong, DOES NOT MATTER.

If you want to have inner peace, you must give up your thoughts of controlling others actions. One thing that you are in control of is adapting to it.

"You are 100% responsible for your reactions."

Quote of the month "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

I.A.O.

This powerful message today is dedicated to all of the people who know the secret to happiness, IT'S ABOUT OTHERS. Is one of these people you? Don't know? Read on.

We are all SELFISH! There are different degrees of selfishness. How selfish are you?

Everyday of our lives we must be relentless against selfishness. Do you want to be happy? If your answer is yes, then we have to step away from the materialistic things of the world. When it comes to wants that we don't necessarily need; Happy people cannot be selfish.

Is this too strong of a message? Maybe. But think about all the things we wanted in life. Once we attained them, it should have sustained our happiness. Otherwise we wouldn't constantly look for more.

Not satisfied? Well understand this. Once we go out of our way for people who need us the most, it will sustain and bring us to a level of happiness that is unimaginable.

"We get the most when we give the most."

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

Get your Brain Out of Bed

A special hello to someone who made a contribution in someones life yesterday, Ashley Lanza.
One morning I woke up thinking about myself like I always did. "No one does anything for me. How come I didn't get that raise at work? I don't feel like getting out of bed. Oh it is raining today."

It seems like negative thoughts make a bed for your brain to lie in every morning. The longer you lay there, the more comfortable your brain is. Then when you finally get to your destination, these next few sentences are what you may look like to others all day, "What about me. What about me. What about me. What about me. What about me. What about me. What about me. WHAT ABOUT ME! WHAT....... ABOUT.........ME!"

Why is this? Because of your addiction.

#1 Selfish Quality: being addicted to our feelings.

The most selfish 5 word sentence that will put a stop to you achieving your goals: "I don't feel like it."

Whenever we say that, we are actually saying, "I will only do what I feel like doing."

"Control your mind, before your mind controls you."

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

We Must Declare War On Selfishness

Special Hello to Ahmad Brown.
Everyday. Every single day of our lives, we must declare war on selfishness.
In order to have happiness, we must break through selfishness.

This is the answer to many problems that we face in this world. Every morning that you wake up, the world is waiting for you. The world is waiting for your impact on it.

What will you do today that will bring the people in this world closer together? Everyday, many people feel is if they don't matter. What will you do today that will make one invisible person, visible?

"If you have nothing to do, don't do it here."

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

Are You Killing Progress?

There are 2 words that can kill progress..."Wait until"

But there are 3 words that bring it back..."Do it Now"

"It's the start that stops most people." ~Dr. Gilbert

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

Are you sick?

Of problems? Advice: Get use to them.

For every problem under the sun,
there is an answer or there is none.
If there is an answer go and find it.
If there isn't, never mind it.

Life is a continuous series of problem solving events.

Antidote to your sickness: Wouldn't life be easy if you had the answer to the problems you encounter? Guess what. YOU DO.
The problem isn't the problem. How you handle the problem determines you problem sickness.

Someone once said, "You either just left a problem, are in a problem or are on your way to a problem."

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

To Get Closer to Your Destination...

You have to do what others won't... to achieve what others don't.

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

Your Mood is Not Determined by What Others are Saying about You

Let's put a stop to allowing others and events, out of our control, to control our moods. Just for today let's count how many times you have the opportunity to get negative and start complaining and let's see if you can pass the Character in Action Test. Here is the challenge, Don't say anything.

Your character is too important to allow others to compromise your position.

"You are not what people call you. You are what you answer to."

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."

Your Wish List May Be Holding You Back

I wish I was taller.
I wish I had more money.
I wish I had a better car.
I wish I had finished school already.
I wish this line at the store wasn't so long.
I wish I was in better shape.

Do you get it yet? Many people walk around everyday saying, "What about me? What about me? What about me?" Once we wake up in the morning, is our first thought about ME? Is our whole day all about ME?

Why should we be given anymore if we don't already appreciate what we have?

"Self pity makes us blind to our blessings." ~Joyce Meyer

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."