Are you an Adapter or Controller?

"Shut up! Come here. If I were you I wouldn't do that. Why do you do that? You should have finished college. Why are you still with him? Stop doing that, it annoys me. Your just annoying." If this is an adult speaking to another adult, what they are really saying is, "Your actions are not fulfilling my expectations." These phrases are selfish motives used by the controller.

Controllers spend most of their life controlling instead of adapting. People who try to control things usually are bossy and demanding.

They spend their whole lives trying to control others, to stay in line with their comfort. They never learned to adapt. People who learn to adapt, trust that everything will work out. Controlling people only trust after it works out. So they spend most of their life trying to control others to fit in with their expectations and comfort.

"Happiness is not the absence of conflict; but the ability to cope with it."

Quote of the month: "If you want to run fast, run alone. If you want to run far, run with others."